A lot of
people fee that bondage is a part of BDSM and that it involves pain and
masochism. It doesn’t have to be that
way at all. Bondage on its own can
represent a fun way to enjoy a different sort of sexual experience.
Some people
enjoy the feeling of being in restraints, of having someone else in complete
control, and the feeling of helplessness.
But what I enjoy most about it is the relief that the one who is tied up
from trying to please the other.
Certainly most of the time, I fully enjoy mutually participative sex but
I also enjoy teasing and being teased.
When you
have your partner tied up, their pleasure is at your mercy and you can touch
them, tease them, work their bodies as you know they like. But denial is a part of the excitement by
delaying their complete satisfaction.
Extending the foreplay. Making a night of it.
Of course,
the tied up partner is often more sensitive than normal in this situation,
because they cannot respond or initiate any activity, all they are left with is
to feel your caresses. Blindfolding them
reduces even further the senses they can use and increases the
anticipation. This can be a good time to
get out the vibrators, oils, silk, and other bedside playthings.
Bondage can
be enjoyable from both sides (IMO).
Whether you are the one doing the teasing or enjoying the ministrations,
I highly recommend you give it a try.
Trusting your partner is an important aspect of the enjoyment (unless
you enjoy fear) and so it’s not a first date activity.
If you or
your partner have a fear of being tied up (from some childhood trauma) you can still enjoy the experience. Just get your partner to agree to pretend to be tied up and agree to
not respond or initiate contact with you.
Usually you will have to remind them once or twice during the teasing.
So give it
some thought. Discuss it with your
partner. Give it a try. Enjoy.
